Today would have been the Brian’s 42nd birthday so we decided to do things he would enjoy today. He was really into home projects the last couple years so Chloe chose to honor him by helping me give my bathroom a face lift. Chase suggested a movie because he loved movies, and Chloe said he took them to a drive-in recently. So we checked out the movies playing at the Blue Starlite and it just happened to be showing one of his favorite Christmas movies: National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation. Overall I’d say today was a win.
Happy Thanksgiving! We started our day volunteering at Operation Turkey, delivering Thanksgiving meals to those less fortunate. It was such a great experience, and the kids and I decided we would make it a tradition from here on out.
Later in the afternoon we were invited to my good friend Celeste’s house, where her fiance made a full turkey dinner for the four of us. It was so delicious, and so thoughtful of them to invite us over so I didn’t have to worry about preparing anything.
This year I am thankful for my amazing kids, friends, family, new traditions, and the support we have all around us. When bad stuff happens, good people just come out of the woodwork to show they care. It’s a really amazing thing to experience.
I decided this year for Thanksgiving we needed to do something positive because everyone keeps saying holidays are the hardest after someone close to you dies. I did some searching for volunteer opportunities and signed us up for Operation Turkey, an organization that provides Thanksgiving meals to the homeless and less fortunate. We went downtown for an orientation and just goofed around a bit before heading home. I asked the kids to recreate a photo for me that appeared in my Timehop app (from 8 years ago) and the result is hilarious!
We decided to get away for the weekend to try to have a little fun, after all we’ve been going through lately. We met up with my BFF Katie and her crew at the Renaissance Festival! Overall we had a good time. Chloe had a hard time because their dad used to take them there a lot, but we got through it. Life is going to be full of moments like that, where things just don’t feel the same for them. All we can do is power through and take things one step at a time….
My kids lost their dad at the end of October. My heart just breaks for them. We adopted his (the kids’) dogs and my brother came down from Idaho to help out. I was terrified about taking the dogs. I have always been a cat person, and have never wanted a dog… let alone two. At once.
I knew very little about them. How much do they eat? When do they eat? How do I know when they have to go out? How often do they go out? I was very grateful to have my brother here to answer what seemed like incredibly stupid questions. Brian’s sister and her husband also came that weekend to take care of some things and they helped me get my backyard “dog ready” by fixing my gates so they latched, and plugging gaps under the fence where the dogs could dig themselves out (because apparently they have a reputation of being escape artists).
The dogs were taken to the animal shelter upon Brian’s death, so we picked them up there. The butterflies in my stomach as we pulled into the parking lot were unreal.
But you know what? It didn’t take long to realize that these dogs are therapists with fur. My kids were so excited to see them. Alexia (the bigger, more chill one) is unofficially Chloe’s, and Cisco (the smaller, crazier one) is unofficially Chase’s. They sleep with them every night, and sometimes through the door I can hear Chloe talking to Alexia. She told me she likes to try to explain to Alexia what happened to dad, because she is probably confused about why they had to move. How beautiful is that? She has taken it upon herself to make sure they feel at home here.
Chase is stepping up to help, too. He showers them with kisses (it’s quite disgusting, actually, because Cisco kisses him back!), takes them outside, scoops poop… all the fun stuff!
They will be going away to “training camp” for a bit to learn some basics so we can walk them (vs. letting them walk us), and they can learn to sit/stay/etc. But I am already falling in love with them….